By Jack Mauro
Another advantage to employing mypartner.com--as though the roster of such wasn't already spilling into the margins--isn't apparent immediately. In fact, it may not be apparent till after you've established the relationship you were after, and it has to do with an often slandered aspect of the online world. Namely, the blind spot. The inability to see, a few pictures aside, what the guy you're interested in is all about physically.
At a club, not an issue. On the street or in a meeting, boozeless, clearer and better. But this very sight, this freedom to immediately take in a man's complete physicality, hampers. We never get the opportunity to stretch beyond the types we've always been drawn to because our heads just keep turning only when that type walks in or walks by. If you're attracted to bears, your eyes and senses are loaded for bear (sorry) in the non-virtual world, and you're inclined to see nothing but bear.
Swell. Except--what exactly, then, are you not seeing? Instantaneous physical attraction is terrific but, as we move more to wanting to feel that attraction grow with the knowing of the man himself, we're missing everything outside of the target zone. In the outside world, anyway, and that's why generating contact online opens doors as it widens your peripheral vision. Online, what he has to say is more the trigger.
Oh, pictures are important, yes, and you tend as well to make contact with the bear or the blond or the bearish blond man who's always sparked your fire. But you don't always, now. If the visual/physicality restrictions of online life are a roadblock, you then simply veer into fresh paths, away from your classic type. So, as disadvantages go, it ain't bad at all.
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